HEALING OUR WOUNDED CHILD PART
"Trauma is a word that’s used by a lot of people, and some people have a narrower definition than I do. When you look at the original word trauma, it’s a Greek word for wounding. Wherever we’re wounded, there’s scar tissue that forms, and scar tissue is always harder, less resilient, and less flexible than the tissue that it replaces....In my definition, it’s not what happens to you externally that defines the trauma but what happens internally to you as a result of it." Gabor Mate
Have you ever noticed that the same stress keeps repeating in your life? You have the same infuriating argument with your spouse, mother or people you love. You react rather than respond. Or you worry regularly about the future. I want to take a moment to thank the part of you that brought you to my website—the part of you that wants to grow, learn, and experience more joy, well-being, and aliveness so that you become your authentic self.
One of my favorite teachers, A.H. Almaas, refers to this part of us as the optimizing function. In my own experience, I feel it as a warming energy that seeks lightness and expansion in order to give more to others.
To move from wounds to wellnes we must dig a little deep. Owning our story can be hard but not nearly as difficult as spending our lives running from it. Embracing our vulnerabilities is risky but not nearly as dangerous as giving up on love and belonging and joy—the experiences that make us the most vulnerable. Only when we are brave enough to explore the darkness will we discover the infinite power of our light.” Brene Brown
Once you know and own your story, you can write your next chapter.
You may try to solve your problems with solutions from the outside world, such as a budget, a diet, exercise, or better communication. But here’s the secret: situations that emotionally trigger you are actually a symptom of unresolved wounding from your childhood. The only way to make lasting progress as an adult is to heal it.
If you are experiencing:
If You want to:
I can help you heal from past shameful childhood experiences (both big and small). These experiences interfere with reaching your potential as an adult—unless you heal them. We will explore and release old beliefs and create new possibilities. I have been supporting people through their personal healing for over 30 years. In every situation (including their own), I have seen that emotional pain, fear, people pleasing, perfectionism, or self-sabotage in adulthood always has a connection to childhood. Heal old wounds, heal the current pain.
It’s true for you, too. No matter whether your childhood was nice or a nightmare: you grew up with unmet needs that compromise your potential. After years of helping clients one on one, I have acquired practical and perceptual tools and techniques to heal childhood wounding. I will guide you through deep emotional healing using Compassionate Inquiry into you childhood.
Attachment Vs Authenticity
Patterns going back to your birth can set you up for stress in your life right now. We will examines the energetic imprint of struggle from your early life. You will learn about the struggle between attachment and authenticity, and how to recognize old limiting self -beliefs. To be authentic is to be in touch with ourselves, our gut feelings, our emotions, and be able to express them. "Authenticity is a collection of choices that we have to make every day. It's about the choice to show up and be real. The choice to be honest. The choice to let our true selves be seen.” - Brene Brown, The Gifts of Imperfection
Re-parent your Inner Child
In childhood, the strategies you used to get your needs met aren’t serving you now as an adult. In sessions, we will explore how to fill old, unmet emotional needs and re-parent yourself so you can live in wholeness. Perceptual and practical tools: self-compassion strategies; mindfulness strategies
here are five key tasks that you are called to do upon your own unique healing journey.
Reclaim Your Authentic Self
Childhood is a time for shaping your identity. Wounding interferes with that. I will support you in reclaiming your identity, so that you can create a life that is true to you and use your personal power to make a difference.
Live with Confidence
The whole purpose of healing childhood wounds is to help you live a full, present life right now. You will know how to integrate the healing work you've done so you can fulfill your potential as an adult.
"Because one believes in oneself, one doesn't try to convince others. Because one is content with oneself, one doesn't need others' approval. Because one accepts oneself, the whole world accepts him or her.”
― Lao Tzu
"Trauma is a word that’s used by a lot of people, and some people have a narrower definition than I do. When you look at the original word trauma, it’s a Greek word for wounding. Wherever we’re wounded, there’s scar tissue that forms, and scar tissue is always harder, less resilient, and less flexible than the tissue that it replaces....In my definition, it’s not what happens to you externally that defines the trauma but what happens internally to you as a result of it." Gabor Mate
Have you ever noticed that the same stress keeps repeating in your life? You have the same infuriating argument with your spouse, mother or people you love. You react rather than respond. Or you worry regularly about the future. I want to take a moment to thank the part of you that brought you to my website—the part of you that wants to grow, learn, and experience more joy, well-being, and aliveness so that you become your authentic self.
One of my favorite teachers, A.H. Almaas, refers to this part of us as the optimizing function. In my own experience, I feel it as a warming energy that seeks lightness and expansion in order to give more to others.
To move from wounds to wellnes we must dig a little deep. Owning our story can be hard but not nearly as difficult as spending our lives running from it. Embracing our vulnerabilities is risky but not nearly as dangerous as giving up on love and belonging and joy—the experiences that make us the most vulnerable. Only when we are brave enough to explore the darkness will we discover the infinite power of our light.” Brene Brown
Once you know and own your story, you can write your next chapter.
You may try to solve your problems with solutions from the outside world, such as a budget, a diet, exercise, or better communication. But here’s the secret: situations that emotionally trigger you are actually a symptom of unresolved wounding from your childhood. The only way to make lasting progress as an adult is to heal it.
If you are experiencing:
- A craving for approval from others
- An emotional issue repeating itself
- Reverting to old patterns when with family
- Painful effects from childhood experiences
If You want to:
- Find your authentic self and feel secure
- Be free from old emotional triggers
- Have confidence and presence in your life
- Heal from painful past experiences
I can help you heal from past shameful childhood experiences (both big and small). These experiences interfere with reaching your potential as an adult—unless you heal them. We will explore and release old beliefs and create new possibilities. I have been supporting people through their personal healing for over 30 years. In every situation (including their own), I have seen that emotional pain, fear, people pleasing, perfectionism, or self-sabotage in adulthood always has a connection to childhood. Heal old wounds, heal the current pain.
It’s true for you, too. No matter whether your childhood was nice or a nightmare: you grew up with unmet needs that compromise your potential. After years of helping clients one on one, I have acquired practical and perceptual tools and techniques to heal childhood wounding. I will guide you through deep emotional healing using Compassionate Inquiry into you childhood.
Attachment Vs Authenticity
Patterns going back to your birth can set you up for stress in your life right now. We will examines the energetic imprint of struggle from your early life. You will learn about the struggle between attachment and authenticity, and how to recognize old limiting self -beliefs. To be authentic is to be in touch with ourselves, our gut feelings, our emotions, and be able to express them. "Authenticity is a collection of choices that we have to make every day. It's about the choice to show up and be real. The choice to be honest. The choice to let our true selves be seen.” - Brene Brown, The Gifts of Imperfection
Re-parent your Inner Child
In childhood, the strategies you used to get your needs met aren’t serving you now as an adult. In sessions, we will explore how to fill old, unmet emotional needs and re-parent yourself so you can live in wholeness. Perceptual and practical tools: self-compassion strategies; mindfulness strategies
here are five key tasks that you are called to do upon your own unique healing journey.
- Bring awareness to what is.
- Grieve what you didn’t receive.
- Cultivate reparative relationships.
- Cultivate reparative moments and experiences of healing.
- Become your own “good enough” inner parent.
Reclaim Your Authentic Self
Childhood is a time for shaping your identity. Wounding interferes with that. I will support you in reclaiming your identity, so that you can create a life that is true to you and use your personal power to make a difference.
Live with Confidence
The whole purpose of healing childhood wounds is to help you live a full, present life right now. You will know how to integrate the healing work you've done so you can fulfill your potential as an adult.
"Because one believes in oneself, one doesn't try to convince others. Because one is content with oneself, one doesn't need others' approval. Because one accepts oneself, the whole world accepts him or her.”
― Lao Tzu